Definitely seems true for me. When I get absorbed in something - writing, yard tasks, cooking, socializing - I feel great. When I start ruminating about my feelings and especially about how I am seeming to other people, I struggle.
There is a world of difference between therapies that focus on individual subjectivity and systems oriented coaching that focuses on interactions in family and other significant relationships. I agree with the author’s assessment regarding the value of each.
Very good. But as I was reading today’s post, I did wonder, how would this relate to being “self aware”? In other words, is there a balance between “forgetting one’s self” and being aware of how one’s actions might impact others or be perceived? Not always being the most “sensitive” person myself, I think this might be tricky. 😊
I'd suggest that being self-aware means being informed enough about yourself that, when in the middle of distress, you're able to prevent cognitive rumination and emotional looping. So it's not just being "self-aware" but being "self-aware for the purpose of preventing rumination/looping."
Definitely seems true for me. When I get absorbed in something - writing, yard tasks, cooking, socializing - I feel great. When I start ruminating about my feelings and especially about how I am seeming to other people, I struggle.
There is a world of difference between therapies that focus on individual subjectivity and systems oriented coaching that focuses on interactions in family and other significant relationships. I agree with the author’s assessment regarding the value of each.
Very good. But as I was reading today’s post, I did wonder, how would this relate to being “self aware”? In other words, is there a balance between “forgetting one’s self” and being aware of how one’s actions might impact others or be perceived? Not always being the most “sensitive” person myself, I think this might be tricky. 😊
I'd suggest that being self-aware means being informed enough about yourself that, when in the middle of distress, you're able to prevent cognitive rumination and emotional looping. So it's not just being "self-aware" but being "self-aware for the purpose of preventing rumination/looping."